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Every ‘Yes’ Is Killing Your Time
It's Monday, say fck NO.
Robert Barta
June 09, 2025
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HEY, MR/MS MONDAY.
You say “yes” when you really want to say “no.”
To unplanned drunk nights.
To meetings with people who don’t add value to your life.
To favors that drain your time and energy
or temptations you should’ve resisted.
And every time you agree to something you don’t want to do, you’re saying “no” to something that actually matters.
So why is saying “NO” so damn hard!?
In this post, I’ll show you how to set boundaries without guilt and why it’s the key to getting what you really want.
Why We Suck at Saying No
We’re wired to please. We don’t want to disappoint. We don’t want to seem selfish. We don’t want to burn bridges.
So we overcommit. We bend. We stretch ourselves too thin.
And then what happens?
We feel resentful, overwhelmed, and drained. It’s sad, but it’s true.
The "Hell Yes or No" Rule
Derek Sivers said it best:
"If it’s not a ‘hell yes,’ it’s a ‘no.’"
Simple. Effective. Life-changing…
Before agreeing to anything, ask yourself:
➕ Do I actually want to do this?
➕ Will this bring me closer to my goals? » Read it twice.
➕ If I say yes, what am I saying no to?
If it’s not an immediate “hell yes,” you already have your answer.
How to Say No Without Feeling Like a Jerk
1️⃣ Be Direct » “I can’t commit to this right now.” leave the horseshit. No need long explanations.
2️⃣ Buy Yourself Time » “Let me check my schedule and get back to you.” Gives you space to think…
3️⃣ Offer an Alternative » “I can’t do that, but I can help in this way.” Keeps relationships intact.
➕ Just Say No » No is a full sentence. You don’t owe everyone an excuse.
So, What’s the Point?
Every “yes” costs you something: your time, your energy, your focus.
If you don’t guard them, someone else will spend them for you.
Protect your space. Prioritize what matters. Say “no” more.
Your future self will thank you.
There are two things I can suggest.
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Much love. Much Posi vibes.
Find My Positivity,
Robert
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